A pause has been decided. But not by both, only by one of the two. The person has declared that they need time, space, distance, without the other having had the chance to take part in this decision. There is an imbalance in the structure of the pause, and this imbalance says something precise about the field.
As examined in the article the difference between a no and a pause in a love binding, a unilateral pause is almost always a pause, not a no. But it has specific characteristics that distinguish it from a shared pause.
The imbalance of the unilateral decision in the field
When a pause is decided by only one person, the field of the two finds itself in asymmetrical positions: one has decided to take distance; the other has not chosen that distance but receives it. This imbalance has specific effects in the field of both.
The one who decided the pause has exercised their freedom of field: they have found a way to manage their own inner condition by creating distance from the connection. As examined in the article the difference between punishing silence and protective silence, this pause is almost always protective, not punitive.
The one who receives it finds themselves in a position of non-choice: something has happened that they could not counterbalance with a decision of their own. This position produces frustration, which can turn into behaviours of pressure aimed at reducing the distance imposed unilaterally.
How to handle the imbalance of the unilateral pause
As examined in the article love binding and the phrase "I need space", the response most favourable to the field is the one that respects the pause requested, even if it was decided unilaterally. Pressing against the pause does not reduce it; it consolidates it.
The imbalance of the decision must be accepted as a datum of the field, not as an injustice to be corrected through pressure. As examined in the article love binding: how to get through the waiting period, getting through the unilateral pause with equanimity is part of the behaviour that is favourable to the field.
How the binding relates to the unilateral pause
The binding operates in the deep field of the person who declared the pause, independently of the pause itself. The pause concerned the external channel of communication, not the deep field on which the binding works. Respecting the pause in one's behaviour is compatible with the esoteric work under way.
FAQ: frequently asked questions on a pause decided by one person in a love binding
They decided to take a pause without asking me. Is that fair?
As examined in this article, a unilateral pause is an exercise of the person's freedom of field, and they have their own autonomy in managing their own distances. It does not require the consent of the one receiving the pause in order to be valid. It must be respected as such.
How long does a unilaterally decided pause last?
As examined in the article love binding when he asked for time, the pause has no precise time horizon. It closes when the field of the person who declared it has found the balance they were seeking, and this happens at its own pace, not at the pace of the one who is waiting.
